I actually did some fast power clean triples with 100 kg in my warm ups today. I’ve got a perfect bar scrape across the front of my neck. Looks like I tried to slit my throat and chickened out. 
Besides that, I don’t want to focus on cleans for a few reasons:
- My snatch form is far better
- My bent bars at home affect cleans more than snatches
- I like the faster speeds inherent in the snatch
- I feel the greater ROM of the snatch is better for the glutes
Oh, and my hands are doing fine. I heal up fast. I’ve been keeping athletic tape on the sensitive parts and it seems to be working.
And I know it’s the parents’ job to embarrass their kids. My parents do a fine job, and it sounds like you do too. 