Which leads me to my problem:
I’ve become so obsessed with counting calories and meal timing and all that jazz that it’s ridiculous, and I feel that it is going to hinder my training. I’m always paranoid about how many calories I’ve eaten in a day, how many I need to plan out in order to have enough energy to do my sprint workouts I’ll be doing without overeating.
I never had this problem before I became extremely nutritionally “aware”. Granted, I was probably carrying around a little extra fat during that time, but ignorance, as they say, was freakin’ bliss.
Does anyone have any advice for me? I want to be able to eat enough so that I have PLENTY of energy to do intense sprint work/lifting, but I don’t want to just eat with reckless abandon like I used to do years ago.
Take up bodybuilding you’d probably do well. Successful bodybuilders (and fitness competitors) who kick things off with an eating disorder are practically the rule rather then the exception, although this isn’t something you hear about or think would occur in males to such an extent but it does.
Once you have an eating disorder you will never ever go 5 minutes without thinking about food again, which is a pre-requisite for bodybuilding success. That’s why I sometimes tell people that want to gain weight that what they should do is go on an overly restrictive diet for a time to increase their awareness of food. Because once they do eating enough won’t ever be a problem 
Sounds like you got things on the right track now though. The hard thing was probably realizing that 2800 calories is a lot of clean food and that yes you CAN eat that much without getting fat.
for starters with a 2800kcal diet i seem to gain weigh wich is frankly imposible, i train ALOT. On the other hand i was rather untrained so i could be gaining muscle still…i really dont know. Besides that, eating 2500kcal/day makes me STARVE, im CONSTANTLY hungry, i mean all the time. Now, you could say thats my old fat brain telling me to eat some sugar, but i have in the past survived with 1800-2000 kcal/day feeling the same (if less) hungry, though i trained a lot less, and i mean alot.
so who tels the truth, my hunger, the scale, my performance?
Metabolism is so variable. For example, I could train like you and gain weight on 2000 calories per day at ~170 lbs. :rolleyes: Quik as hell eats 4500 calories…not everything can be explained with charts. Bottom line if you’re losing weight you’re burning up more calories then you consume.
AND, i im 5’10’’ weigh 175lbs my body fat is (visually) 11% (i can see abs but i have flab) so should i do a “body builders” cycle to get leaner and ad some muscle as fast as possible or what?
Probably not
its common(?) knowledge that the leaner you are the easier it is to remain that way,
Actually it’s the opposite. The leaner you become the easier it is to add fat back on. The research here is misleading because they show that lean people, those at 6-8% bodyfat for example, have faster metabolisms per lb of bodymass and partition more excess calories into muscle vs fat when eating excess calories compared to someone up around 15% bodyfat, who has a slower metabolism and stores more calories as fat when overfeeding.
The problem is they’re getting their data from people who are NATURALLY lean and trying to extrapolate their functions to everyone which doesn’t work. In other words, there’s a humongous difference between someone who’s naturally at 6% bodyfat (quikashell) vs someone who has to diet his ass off to get down there. The latter will have a very slow metabolism and be apt to pile on fat at an astounding rate which is totally opposite the former.